“Keeping Christ in Christmas”: Let’s all just relax

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Christmas ornamentsIt’s that time of year when many Christians navigate an uneasy path, trying to remember that “Jesus is the reason for the season” when so much of the season revolves around secular activities like decking the halls, leaving cookies for Santa, and belting out songs about a uniquely gifted reindeer.

Author Amy Julia Becker used to be one of those people who worried about “keeping Christ in Christmas.” When her children started coming — she now has three — she tried valiantly to separate the sacred and the secular. Her kids would not conflate Santa Claus with God, or regard Jesus’ birthday as an excuse for hedonistic spoiling.

As she describes in her beautiful new memoir Small Talk: Learning from My Children About What Matters Most, she did her best to put Christ in Christmas by underscoring the religious message of the holiday (Advent calendars, stuffed animal nativity scenes, church carols instead of “Santa Claus Is Comin’ to Town”) and de-emphasizing the focus on presents. Maybe she should just give each child one gift?

What changed her mind about Christmas was her kids.

Christopher Capozziello

Christopher Capozziello

Sure, they were as interested as any other kids in presents, and special holiday foods, and school parties, and did we mention the presents? But they also knew a thing or two about pure, unadulterated joy – something adults like Becker, and like me, could stand to learn a thing or two about. When her daughter Penny came home singing “Jingle Bell Rock” with an almost worshipful joy, Becker recognized that for Penny, there was no dividing line between the sacred and the profane.

Maybe, she realized, her attempts to carefully separate “Christian Christmas” and “American Christmas” were theologically misguided:

I think back to the way Jesus’ birth upended traditional assumptions that the spiritual world and the physical world must remain distinct spheres. Jesus’ birth signaled the entrance of God into time and space. And despite Jesus’ condemnation of evil, his life attests to his ongoing affirmation of the goodness of our physical reality. This is the man who changed water into wine so the party could continue . . .

Jesus was concrete, physical, tangible — not a pie-in-the-sky deity who could not be bothered with human mess or human joy. In the person of Jesus, the sacred and the secular fused in a new and powerful way. Why should our celebration of Christmas be any different?

Christmas, Becker finds, cannot be “purely” religious. Rather, it’s an example of how the sacred consecrates the profane. When we bake gingerbread cookies or dress in fancy clothes, “we are acknowledging a spiritual truth made manifest on Christmas morn. We are participating in God’s declaration that this world matters enough to enter into it, to upend the evil within it, to hold tight to the good, forever.”

That, in a nutshell, is what Incarnation means.

The Word became flesh, and dwelt among us. Pass the eggnog.



smalltalk2And speaking of Christmas, Amy Julia Becker’s latest book, Small Talk: Learning from My Children About What Matters Most, would make a terrific holiday gift for parents and anyone who is interested in what children can teach us about God.

It’s a beautifully written combination of memoir and theology, both accessible and thought-provoking. Take a look.

  • Kevin

    Despite our angst that a holy day seems to have been co-opted by a holiday, Christmas has never belonged exclusively to Jesus Christ. The symbols and traditions associated with December 25th were taken by the early Catholic fathers from pagan traditions and grafted into the Catholic belief system as a way to point people to the Lord. It hasn’t helped that a tradition of giving gifts is amplified to unholy levels in our broader cult of consumerism. Choose joy and generosity, I say.

  • Yes, we’ve definitely gone way overboard with the commercial aspect. But a moderate approach is just FUN. Can’t we all have a great time celebrating at Christmas, without all the hand-wringing?

  • If one tries to “spread out” and do everything that Christmas is “supposed” to be, one will become a nervous, stressed-out wreck. I focus on Jesus and family and let the rest of it all go.

  • Jack

    Very nice post, Jana…..the best post here in a while.

  • Jack


  • Yes to all of this Jana. Your reflections and those of Julie Becker that you expand upon here are a gift. Merry Christmas to all of us!

    “He whizzed with his load through the bright morning light,
    And he brought back the toys! And the food for the feast!
    And he, HE HIMSELF! The Grinch carved the roast beast!”

  • Kelsey P-C

    This perfectly summarizes how I’ve been feeling this month. Jesus is the reason I decorate a tree or buy gifts or eat candy canes, so isn’t doing all that still a celebration of Him? I think so.

    Great post, Jana. I really enjoyed it.

  • Larry

    It would be nice if people from Abrahamic faiths just accepted its syncreatism with a smile like every other religion in the world does.

    Yes your religion took things from other faiths and made it their own. Relax. Everyone does it. It makes the religions more fun that way. More likely than not one’s faith took some fun aspects of another religion and put their little spin on it. Its cause to celebrate, not reason to get all bent out of shape.