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  • John

    Hhmmm. Interesting response. If I were to extrapolate your position, then any two (responsible?) people can and should have sex before marriage? Curious if you see any boundaries here. Also, I think you really missed an opportunity to bring a stronger or more exhaustive theological response to this question. For this generation being raised in a hyper-sexed world where sex has no strings, how can we teach them about God’s intentions for sex (assuming we think there are any besides pleasure or procreation)? I don’t like many of the past traditional positions, but you left this wide open for anything, and I don’t think that is what God had in mind. I’ll bet many people would not even think that God has any greater purposes for sex nor would they want to respect those. I hope to do better than your answer as I encounter this issue with real seekers.

  • I mean no disrespect to Rev. Martin, but considering the question refers to confession (or confection…), I am guessing the couple are Catholic.

    The question was posed to Rev. Martin, and he answered. That’s fine, though I disagree with his reasoning. But it would have been polite, IMO, to suggest they seek the counsel of somebody of their own faith, because whatever this answer is, it sure isn’t Catholic.

    Best regards!

  • Fr Mark

    Finally a(nother) priest who makes sense on the subject of sex. And there are plenty of others out there. Those who see his response as an invitation to anything-goes are mistaken. He is calling for a more thoughtful, loving and theologically sound approach to human sexuality. It is about time for the Church to release its (supposed) control over something so fundamental, so beautiful, about our lives. For God’s sake – for everyone’s sake – look beyond the phobias and neuroses that we have inherited from the past. It is time to get real.

  • John

    Please explain how the theological position of those agreeing with Rev. Martin is more sound, thoughtful and loving.

  • Charles

    Funny. The Hebrew belief was always one that stated that sex outside of marriage is adultery. So when God says, “Don’t commit adultery,” He’s saying “Don’t have sex outside of marriage.”. Period.

  • Fran

    What matters most here is God’s opinion of fornication, or sexual intercourse before marriage, instead of what man thinks. God knows what is best for us since he is our Creator.

    Hebrews 13:4 brings out:

    “Let marriage be honorable among all, and let the marriage bed be without defilement, for God will judge fornicators and adulterers.”

    Other scriptures dealing with God’s view of fornication are found at Matthew 15:19; Mark 7:20-21; 1 Corinthians 5:9-11; 6:9; Ephesians 5:5; 1 Timothy 1:8-10; Revelation 21:8; 22:15.

  • James Carr

    If the couple went to confession, then they are aware of what the Catholics teach as truth of God’s commands. In light of that, they would be required to obey the laws of the church and resist all sexual contact/temptation until marriage.

    Over the past decades, sex has risen to an almost imperative human act on the level of breathing oxygen. We overemphasize its importance as a critical facet of human nature, while underemphasizing its reason for being; procreation. Love is 90% compatibility to be together for life……sex is, maybe, 10% of marital importance.

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  • Greg

    Not sure why this is called “Father Knows Best.” It leads one to think the Reverend is Catholic. But after a few paragraphs it is clear that he’s not. My only fear is the Fr. Mark is Catholic, and is teaching something opposed to both the Gospel, and the Church. Hopefully Fr. Mark is Anglican??? 1Cor 6:18-20.

  • Diogenes

    The Gentlemen in question who authors the ‘spiritual’ responses to the queries posed by others in this feature appears from an orthodox perspective to be wholly unqualified for the role he assumes. I know…I know, now I’m guilty of an ad hominem. Put another way, I cannot wrap my mind around the advice he gives and square it up with the normatives of scripture. Progressives will argue that I’m a bigot, or repressed; I charge them with revisionism and the rejection of 2000 years of orthodoxy. The Christian walk is not a cakewalk, it is a challenge to our natural inclinations. To suggest that the proper response to our natural inclinations is to surrender, makes the requirement that we bear our cross daily null and void.

  • John

    Good points, well articulated. This concept of dealing with our sin nature is lost among a concern to be more accepted by the surrounding culture.