Mormon couple doesn’t want to be part of Supreme Court gay marriage case

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Josh Weed, a marriage and family therapist in the Northwest, has known he was gay since his teens, and Lolly was the first person he told. They’ve been married 10 years and have three daughters.

Josh Weed, a marriage and family therapist in the Northwest, has known he was gay since his teens, and Lolly was the first person he told. They’ve been married 10 years and have three daughters.

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SALT LAKE CITY — “What does that have to do with us at all?” asked Josh Weed, an openly gay man who has been married to a woman for 12 years.

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  • bqrq

    Josh Weed acknowledges that he has same-sex attractions but instead of pursuing the gay lifestyle, he settled down, married a good woman, has four lovely children and is obviously a good man; so let us assume that he does not practice gay sex (otherwise his marriage would not have lasted). Mr. Weed is an excellent role model for others who suffer similarly. Thanks Mr. Weed for living righteously and setting a good example.

  • Derek

    You are delusional.

  • Nick

    As a gay man myself I know that I should be appalled by this story. I’m not. This is a beautiful story about people living their life the way they want, and if it isn’t doing harm to anyone, why should anyone object.
    I can’t see myself in a relationship, let alone a marriage with a woman, but that is me and that should also be accepted. Nobody should be forced to live a life they feel uncomfortable about.

  • Larry

    So the most publicly visible “mixed orientation” married couple doesn’t want to be used as an example or be referenced in an amicus brief claiming such couples are somehow being discriminated against by marriage equality. Doesn’t say much for Mainwaring’s assertions.

    It is extremely silly to claim a marriage which is already recognized nationally and internationally as legally valid is somehow affected by the marriage of others whose legal acceptance will vary from country to country. Demeaning marriage? Give me a break.

  • The Weeds, of Washington state, became the public face of Mormon mixed-orientation marriage in 2012, when they posted their story on Josh’s blog, joshweed.com. They do not advocate mixed-orientation marriages for others.

    And we must all bow to the wit and wisdom of screwball attention whores.

  • Ned Flaherty

    The reporter wrote — incorrectly — that gay husband and former real estate broker Doug Mainwaring, and his straight wife Valerie, live in Massachusetts.

    That’s incorrect. They do not live in Massachusetts.

    They live in Montgomery County, Maryland, a suburb of Washington, DC, where Doug started a National Capitol Tea Party Patriots organization.

  • Larry

    So let their name and situation be used for a legal brief without their permission?

  • I suggest if you would like to avoid three sentences about ‘your situation’ being quoted in an amicus brief, don’t make videos of interviews of yourself and have them put up on the internet.

    Problem solving ability. It’s great stuff.

  • This is a beautiful story about people living their life the way they want, and if it isn’t doing harm to anyone, why should anyone object

    People who think in these terms don’t get involved in sectarian politics. The people who do get involved in such politics are not concerned with anyone’s liberty per se.

  • Delusional about what?

  • Larry

    We can all do without the media attention of fame whores like those in the ex-gay industry and those advocating “mixed orientation marriages”. 🙂

  • Oh such a terrible obtrusive nuisance. After 25 years of reading the Christian magazine press, I can think of about six couples. a pair of (British) couples whose name escapes me, one couple whom I only ever saw referenced in a low-circulation newsletter, one divorced couple of whom the husband has made no public statements in about 12 years, Alan Medinger et al (deceased), and Alan Chambers et al. I think Alan Chambers might benefit from landing a normal job and leading a quiet life. I’d have told him that 15 years ago, if I’d ever heard of him up to that time.

  • ben in oakland

    We finally find ourselves in total agreement. congrats.

  • ben in oakland

    He’s not a gay husband. He is a bisexual man. Same as alan chambers, same as josh weed.

  • bqrq

    ben said;
    “…..He’s not a gay husband. He is a bisexual man…..”

    The only thing we know for sure about Josh Weed is that he engages in normal marital relations. It is highly doubtful that he participates in gay sex outside of his marriage, otherwise he would be divorced. Josh loves his wife and children. It is foolish to assume that Josh has sex with gay men and then comes home and has sex with his wife.

  • Barry the Baptist

    And what would “the gay lifestyle” have been in his case: marrying a good man, adopting four lovely children, and being a good man? Is there anything wrong with this?

    How does a sustained marriage provide evidence that he does not practice gay sex? You never actually provide support for that assumption: just one assumption following another.

    Mr Weed also never mentioned anything about suffering. How do you arrive at the conclusion that he is?

  • bqrq

    Dear Barry,
    You are right, I am making a lot of assumptions about Mr. Weed’s marriage. Perhaps its wishful thinking, I hope he is a good man and abstains from all sex outside of marriage.

  • bqrq

    Are you married?

  • Be Brave

    No Nick, it should not and cannot be “accepted” by Christians (not addressing Mormons at all) that follow the teachings and guidelines of Christian truth.

    There is no such thing as same gender marriage in Christian reality. If you want to marry a plant, so be it. But whatever the gay activists demand of secular society, they should be compelled to stop bashing and bullying Christians that follow the New Testament honestly, to have to kowtow to gay demands.

    Every Christian that stands up against the intimidation of secular political power and follows marriage as man and woman/husband and wife are doing what is honest. There is no such thing as same gender marriage in Christian truth. If people of the same gender want to create a new paradigm for so-called “marriage equality,” this has no more to do with Christian life, than PETA demanding that Toads and Frogs should be recognized as having voting rights. (Which I’m sure is coming to secular life too.)

  • Larry

    I am not interested in marrying you bqrq. Stop proposing to me!

  • Larry

    If it weren’t for people who insisted for religious and prejudicial (same thing) reasons to attack gays under color of law, nobody would care about these couples. But they are politically useful for that crowd. So we both have to keep hearing about them for the time being. That is until the Fundamentalist Christian crowd finds a new “boogeyman” to demonize.

  • Billysees

    Larry,
    “…bqrq. Stop proposing to me!”

    Hehehe…cute answer…funny…

  • Billysees

    ben,
    “He’s not a gay husband. He is a bisexual man.”

    Those are is the ‘greater’ truths. They don’t want to say that about themselves because it is not startling enough.