Martin Elfert

The Rev. Martin Elfert is an immigrant to the Christian faith. After the birth of his first child, he began to wonder about the ways in which the Divine was at work in the world. Shortly thereafter, he joined Christ Church Cathedral in Vancouver, BC, where he and his new son were baptized at the Easter Vigil in 2005 and where the community encouraged him to seek ordination.

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Father Knows Best: Why do Bullies Always Win?

By Martin Elfert — May 20, 2015
The bullies always win, Leo, only when we agree to interact with them within a ...

Father Knows Best: How do I pray? To whom? For what?

By Martin Elfert — May 7, 2015
What if we approached prayer with a similar willingness to experiment?

Father Knows Best: What now?

By Martin Elfert — April 22, 2015
On that day we will ask your question..

Father Knows Best: Where do I Find my Truth on Theology?

By Martin Elfert — April 15, 2015
I’m at a crossroads with the subject of God.

Father Knows Best: Two reasons to be sexually active before marriage

By Martin Elfert — April 1, 2015
Me and my girlfriend had sex a while back and continued to do so until recently when we decided to stop and go to confession. We have since stopped and are planning stopping until marriage.

Father Knows Best: Is it OK to be angry at God?

By Martin Elfert — March 25, 2015
How should one respond to anger at G-d?

Father Knows Best: How do I Know if I Should Get A Divorce?

By Martin Elfert — March 18, 2015
We’ve grown so far apart...

Father Knows Best: Does working at something you love pay off?

By Martin Elfert — March 3, 2015
Yes. But the pay off may not look the way that you expected it to.

Father Knows Best: “Living in the closet sucks”

By Martin Elfert — February 18, 2015
...After he left us to go back to school, however, he wrote the church a letter letting us know that he is gay and that he has a partner. A lot of people were shocked and hurt by that. I don’t understand why he would do that.

Father Knows Best: How do I react to anger?

By Martin Elfert — February 10, 2015
...And that “of course” changed everything. My anger was gone. My inclination to judge was gone.

Father Knows Best: Do You Believe in Hell?

By Martin Elfert — January 27, 2015
I don’t just believe in hell: I’ve seen it. I bet that you have as well.

Father Knows Best: 6 Gospel principles to help us cope with Charlie Hebdo attacks

By Martin Elfert — January 13, 2015
As a person of faith, what do you think about Charlie Hebdo and the attacks that claimed 12 lives at its Paris headquarters last week?

Father Knows Best: New Year’s Resolutions and 12-Step Spirituality

By Martin Elfert — January 7, 2015
I started to think about resolutions in a new way a few years ago. That’s when I first began to learn a little about 12-Step spirituality...

Father Knows Best: How can I figure out what I really want to do with my life?

By Martin Elfert — December 23, 2014
...allow yourself a little stillness, you may be surprised by what you hear.

Father Knows Best: Holy wear and tear

By Martin Elfert — December 10, 2014
Earlier this week, I was visiting with my friend Barrett. Barrett is in his 70s, and he has used the gift of his decades to build up wisdom. In light of that visit, I’d like to risk breaking the rules of the advice column
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