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The lists of things you should never say

Is it really admirable or edifying, though, to insist on lists of rules of what one must “never” say? Do these lists get at the heart of the matter — that all of us, in our words, should strive to “speak unto others as we’d like them to speak to us?” Do these lists leave room for grace?