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The setting: Mid-morning at a suburban gift boutique. The time: The week before Christmas. The players: The pleasant store clerk, a 40-something soccer mom-type and me (browsing for stocking stuffers).

Enter the frazzled soccer mom.

“Some people are unbeLIEVEable!” she says, to no one in particular.

“What happened?” the clerk asks.

“This woman out there said I parked too close to her car,” the enraged soccer mom says. “I didn’t hear her at first so I said, `I’m sorry, what did you say?’ And she said, `YOU HEARD ME!’ “

“Oh my goodness … ” the clerk says, attempting a sympathetic tone before soccer mom interrupts.

“I was like, `I didn’t hear you, and it’s a wonder because you’re such a loud, fat (falalalala, hum to yourself)!’ Some people!” she shouted, flinging her scarf over her shoulder and storming back out to the sidewalk.

Cue the stunned silence.

“Bah humbug, huh?” the clerk says in a small voice, to me.

“Ho ho ho, right?” I reply.

“This time of the year, some people just lose all of their … ” the clerk pauses, searching for the right word.

“Humanity?” I suggest.

“Yeah,” she says. “And sense.”

`Tis the season to be surly. And overwhelmed, overextended and overcommitted.

I get it. We all have moments when we forget where and, more importantly, who we are. We are so busy thinking about the next 10 things we need to get done before tomorrow that we lose sight of the here and now.

We’re obsessed with what to make for Christmas dinner, and what to buy for that difficult family member who never seems pleased with any of last year’s gifts, and whether we’ll be able to make the Wii work on Christmas morning and whether it’s too late to order a cord of wood, and, and, and …

Stop. Please. Take a moment. Take a breath.

Sure, it’s trite, but try to remember the reason for the season. Even if that reason is, for you, not specifically to celebrate the birth of Jesus, it is about something bigger than you. It’s about being with the ones you love, about sharing quality time together and taking the time to feel the joy, love and peace that the holidays are supposed to inspire.

But in order for that to happen, you need to be present. And I don’t mean just physically.

Among the stocking stuffers I bought the other day was a little book called “1,001 Ways to Live in the Moment” by Barbara Ann Kipfer. It’s a small tome — about 4-inches-square — perfect for the heel of a Christmas stocking.

Actually, I ended up buying three copies: two for my closest girlfriends — both consummate multi-taskers and (like me) slightly-frazzled soccer moms — and one for me. Inside there are 373 pages of small, practical suggestions and inspirational quotations about remaining in the here and now.

Here’s one of my favorites: “Feeling good is worth far more than looking good — and it makes you attractive in itself. So if you’re enjoying yourself in company, resist the temptation to check your appearance in the mirror. … The real you is the one looking out with vitality, not the one looking back with anxiety.”

As we make the rounds to holiday celebrations, I’m going to try to remember that it’s about presence, not my hair.

Another stellar suggestion was a quote from Cervantes: “He who sings scares away his woes.” So this year, when there’s a chance to sing Christmas carols in church or at a party, I’m going to sing. Loud. Even if I’m off-key.

And then there was this: “Respect for others, reliability, kindness and compassion are all key. Living in the moment does not mean acting impulsively, without thought of the future.” So being present might mean not taking that extra cup of spiked eggnog, or overspending on a sure-to-please gift.

Kipfer ends her 1,001 suggestions with this: “Our selves, our destinies, are being created constantly through our thoughts and actions. Attune yourself to the inherent creativity of your life. Let enlightenment be the finishing touch on your masterpiece.”

This Christmas, simply show up. Be there. It’s sure to be a blessed one for you and the ones you love.

(Cathleen Falsani is the author of “Sin Boldly: A Field Guide for Grace” and the new book, “The Dude Abides: The Gospel According to the Coen Brothers.”)