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On Saying Goodbye to Singleness: What You Gain, What You Lose

It's OK to grieve a good season of life even when you're genuinely excited about what's next.
On Saying Goodbye to Singleness: What You Gain, What You Lose
Roxanne Stone and Katelyn Beaty



Can we talk about the beard hair in the sink?

Getting engaged is exciting! But saying goodbye to singleness is not so straightforward — especially when you’ve spent years defending and celebrating the single life. On this episode, Katelyn and Roxy admit letting go of being single felt more complicated than they expected. Sure, you have someone else to eat with … but you also have to figure out who is getting groceries. You gain a life partner … but you lose a lot of alone time. Did we make an idol out of singleness? Maybe. But also our joy in that identity felt hard-won and we were proud of the lives we’d carved out on our own. 


But, hey, it’s the end of a season (literally, it’s our last episode of 2025!) and it’s time to let go. Katelyn is getting married and moving in with a man and we are here for it. We talk all the logistics — and also the profound shifts that are bound to come when you merge your life with another person’s.

Plus: a quiz to test just how chill Katelyn really is about cohabitation (spoiler: not very), some marriage advice from Roxy, and why it’s OK to grieve a good season of life even when you’re genuinely excited about what’s next.

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